Tuesday, June 17, 2014

Thoughts about weddings/marriage

For as long as I could remember, I actively DIDN'T think about my future wedding.  I never imagined what kind of dress I would wear.  I never thought about what colors my wedding would be, or what kind of venue it would be, or even what the groom would look like.

I have been in two long term relationships.  The first one taught me to let my guard down and to trust not only in myself, but in someone else.  During this relationship, I even started imagining that wedding told myself never imagine.  He was my high school sweetheart, and when it ended, it affected me more than I would like to admit. My wall went back up for a little while.  I decided to not imagine too far into the future, to enjoy the now, and wherever it goes, i would follow.

Thank goodness that my current boyfriend was willing to climb the wall. He put up with my difficulties, walked with me through my struggles, and held my hand when I needed it most.  After four years together, those weeding thoughts are entering my imagination again, and surprisingly, I find myself welcoming them.

Here is why.  I like who I am when I am with him.  He doesn't complete me, but he compliments me.  If I were to use a metaphor to describe us, I would say he was the peanut butter to my chocolate.  Both stand alone amazingly, but put together, they make my favorite candy. (Reeses peanut cups, of course!) He understands my sense of humor, he makes me laugh like hyena with his made up songs about poop.  I know that sounds weird,but when he is on point, they are actually quite clever.   One of the most telling things that make me feel that I could spend the rest of my life with him is because when I'm not with him, I miss him. I just miss being in the same room with him. When hes in the same place as me, I just feel safe and right.

That's all I have for today. Tha tha tha tha thats all folks.
xoxo
Cara